Big Idea:
Feelings are tricky. You might feel butterflies, awkwardness, or even confusion when you’re around someone you like. That’s normal! But understanding what kind of feeling it is can help you make better choices.
💡 The Breakdown:
- Like = You feel attracted to someone. You might want to talk, laugh, or hang out with them more.
- Love = Deeper, steady care. Love isn’t just about romance — it’s also about trust, kindness, and showing up.
- Just Vibes = Sometimes you’re excited or curious… but not actually interested in a deep connection. You might just enjoy the attention or how it makes you feel.
🤔 What Should You Do Next?
✅ If It’s “Just Vibes”:
- Be honest — with yourself and with the other person if they start to catch feelings.
- Avoid leading them on just because the attention feels nice.
Example: “You’re cool to talk to, but I’m not really looking for anything serious.”
✅ If You Like Someone:
- Start slow — build a connection before making it romantic.
- Look for shared values and respect, not just attraction.
Think: “Do I like how I feel around them?”
✅ If You Think It’s Love:
- Ask: Is it kind? Is it healthy? Does it go both ways?
- Healthy love never forces, controls, or ignores you.
- Don’t rush — real love grows over time.
📚 Real Life Example:
DeShawn thinks he’s falling in love. But after journaling and talking to a trusted friend, he realizes he’s drawn more to the attention than to who the person really is.
Instead of diving into a relationship, he decides to be friends and give it time. He’s learning to check his feelings before making a move.
🔁 Golden Rule:
Don’t chase a “yes” if your gut says “hmm…”
If you’re unsure, it’s okay to wait. You’re not behind. You’re just being wise.
🎮 Game Tie-In:
In multiplayer games, not everyone on your friend list is a great teammate. Before you team up for an epic quest (like a relationship), it’s smart to build some trust and respect first.
